If you get offended easily - maybe you shouldn't read this... but it's my blog and these are my feelings and opinions. :-)
While I am the first to admit that I am the biggest Facebook addict... if I learn of another close friends or family member's pregnancy or engagement, hospitalization via Facebook I am going to go insane! No really!
Two recent observations about facebook:
1. I think society has gotten so impersonal and honestly tells too much of their business on facebook. If you don't want the whole world poking in your business, asking questions and being up your butt then don't put it out there for people to see. If you do want people in your business... well that is your own deal...
Yes I post comments, status updates very commonly but I am very aware of what I am putting out there and how it can effect other people. My rule - keep it generic (ie you don't need to know when I have a crappy day, Bo and are fighting or every time something goes bad in my life - if I want you to know i will tell you.) -
2. Let people tell their OWN news first....a don't post a "CONGRATS I'm so excited for you two" if the person has not updated their own status first....Is it sad you have to tell people... "Please don't post this on facebook?"
Situation A. My LOVELY cousin Amber is having a BABBBYYYY! Luckily she called and told me before it was posted it all over facebook.
Situation B. My cousin ASHLEY RAND is engaged to ROSS!! High School Sweethearts - adorable couple and so happy for them! Ashley's brother Brian announced to the world - the same night- that they are engaged. Now cousin being engaged -- At least give them a night or two to tell the family - I mean it's one thing to get a call from my mother or grandmother and not directly from Ashley in this case - Ashley and I are close but there's a lot of frickin' cousins on that side. I didn't want to find out on FACEBOOK!
Situation C. My bestest friend since 2nd grade got engaged! I am so happy for her but I accidentally found out through a posting (not hers - someone posted on her wall) - it was done in pure excitement a mere 1 hour after they got engaged. While I am SUPER excited and was the next on the call list after her mother and brother - Facebook got to me sooner. And by no means does it take away the excitement I have for her and her fiancée but I just had a different vision of how I would learn my best friend is marrying the love of her life!
Situation D. My own engagement - I love you Jenna Perry... but she did let the cat out of the bag a little earlier than I wanted. I had been on the phone all day and Jenna in her over excited state (which i loved btw) wrote congrats on my wall and then started to get more texts...Sorry for those who thought you deserved a phone call.. people got too excited and well I had been on the phone all day. Most people did know but there were still a few on my list to call...
So here is the moral of the post:
Stop telling me personal intimate details of your life... and please let people post their own big news on facebook or the internet or other social media websites.
Amen sister!
ReplyDeleteI completely agree! I found out my brother was engaged because he announced it on FB. HE HADN'T EVEN CALLED MY MOM YET! Ugh.
ReplyDeleteAt the same time though--I think people need to be aware that any important life info is always going to end up on FB eventually. I know couples who have taken WEEKS to put up some life-changing thing on FB. Like an engagement or announcing they are pregnant (of course it's another matter if someone tells you earlier than 12ish weeks).
yeesh.